Family Member Spotlight- BEN

BEN

While Amber is a shy extrovert, Ben is more of an outgoing introvert. He loves people and loves to connect on a deep emotional level. People who know him well and people who have listened to him speak or teach often refer to him as being extremely authentic and sincere and does his best to be as transparent as possible with his feelings, struggles and fears. Much of his life is dedicated to helping other people realize their potential or overcome their personal struggles. He uses many of the skills he has learned while being an instructor for the Army, a chaplain assistance in the Army and a employee at therapeutic youth facilities to help him to his current full-time job as a marketing and sales director for his family's Custom Home Building Company. Well he is fiercely passionate about caring for people, he can sometimes overwhelm himself and need time to recharge emotionally. 

Ben spent several years trying to come to grips with his self-image and learn how to accept all the silly, odd and unique things about him that make him special. He is a self-proclaimed geek and nerd, but is also passionate about sports and other high testosterone activities. He loves going out to movies or playing online video games with his friends. 

He was born and Salem, Oregon and moved around multiple times before he finally settled down in Utah at the age of 18. While he lived in Washington, Oregon, California and Utah as a child, the majority of his life was spent between Oregon and Utah. 

After graduating high school and joining the Army, then has traveled across the country and across the world. He has served two deployments to Kosovo and Iraq. He has been in the Army since 1998 and considers it one of the most important decisions he ever made. In addition to being in the Army and doing marketing and sales, he also runs a small life coaching practice. He has a Facebook page where he makes videos to help people overcome interpersonal issues and other related topics.









As a husband, he is completely dedicated to his wife, Amber, and does everything he can to help her feel loved and empowered. He loves and embraces everything unique and quirky about her. He would happily leave the world behind and take him and his family to an isolated place and live contently forever.








He does his best to be a good father to his children. Growing up with different step parents and several broken homes has giving him a somewhat difficult but unique perspective. He does the best he can to learn from the mistakes of his parents and tries to connect deeply with his children to help them understand the values that he professes. While he has several important responsibilities, he understands that being a parent is the most far-reaching effect he can have in this life.  Adoption was something he'd always had in mind, but it wasn't until recently that he knew it was more than just something he felt like he should do. He feels like this adoption process is more than just expanding his family and bringing another child into the family. He feels like it is what the Lord needs him and his family to do. Knowing this makes it very easy to put his personal reservations and fears aside and trust in the Lord and want to do all he can to provide for this child and give her the best life possible.